How To Organize Your Emotions

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After hearing some elders discredit focusing on self. I was more driven to self-mastery. As I sat and listened to them, I listened to that inner voice, letting me know that it is vital to master self. Once I started to study the subject, I learned to master myself and why it is essential.  To achieve what I will write about, mastering yourself is crucial. The two go hand and hand, so follow me as I discuss something many may not realize is possible. As an organizer, people assume I will come to your home and show you where your shoes go. I mean, I can, but my work runs so much deeper than that. I can help you organize your space; I can help you organize goals; I can help you organize and manage your time, but I also help with soul organization.


Imagine going on a vacation to return home, leaving all the suitcases in the corner filled with clothes. Finally, you decide to unpack, so you open up the bag and begin to unpack one thing at a time, choosing the very thing on top until you work your way to the bottom. The more you unpack and place things where they belong, the lighter the bag gets, right? Use this same technique with our emotions to process them. Sometimes out of nowhere, I will get a weird feeling. I would pause a moment to understand what is taking place and where it came from, journal it out to release it, and meditate to understand the root. That’s my way of unpacking. Understanding brings about healing we miss out on because we choose to stuff things and put them away. Our souls need organizing because they are cluttered. Clutter has a list of detrimental effects, be it your space or your soul. If a cluttered office can bring on anxiety, can you imagine what your soul is going through?


Our emotions affect our behavior. Sometimes getting to the root of emotions means tracing the lie that we believe caused the feeling. Emotions influence our logic and productivity. I recall finding out a guy I was dating was seeing someone else the entire time. Upon discovering that information, I lost the momentum to complete my daily task. As hard as I tried to focus, emotionally, I was all over the place. I had to dump in my journal 20 minutes at a time for at least three days to gain control that I had lost. That incident also revealed his thought process as well and how dark, emotionally, he was. Emotions determine how we treat others and can continue unhealthy cycles. When we do not heal, we create an identity to cover who we are. These ways are usually harmful, and that my friend becomes a generational problem.  Take stock of your emotions and why you feel them. Master them, do not let them master you.


My emotions mastered me for years. I was going to work early one morning. My mind cluttered with yesterday’s feelings that I failed to see any of the traffic lights being red. Before I knew it, I was at my destination and receiving tickets in the mail because I ran several lights. Autopilot is not the way. I was not mindful, and I paid for it, literally. It could have been worse because I could have caused an accident. At the time, I self-medicated with a ministry. I had my hands in a lot after being told I was unfaithful because I needed a break. There is an expectation to work and not heal in the church, which is why the majority leaks from broken glasses.  I tried running several times, but I was labeled. I knew I needed help, and I tried to voice that, but my internal sufferings were minimized. I understand when people do not know they do not know. I discovered the healing and doing inner work via a dream and connecting with people via social media. Those connections have changed my life.


Therapy can help with managing emotions. Find someone who specialized in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). This information allowed me to grow as a person. I even purchased books and studied this modality further. Now I am certified in CBT and helping others in ways I did not have.  I also journal. Whenever there are nagging emotions taking place, I unplug to write it down and identify the source. My dreams have even shown me my responses to situations and helped to trace where it originated. A lot of my problems traced to my childhood and not being affirmed. For a long time, I believed the lie that I was not worthy, and I should have been thrown out like the Wednesday trash. This belief system showed up in every part of my life until I healed.


Want to organize your emotions? Start with these simple steps:

1.       List problems or worries. Writing eases anxiety.

2.       Discover if it is a pattern. Is this feeling necessary, or is it controlling you?  Emotions drive behavior, so check them often. When emotions are exaggerated, they become the reason we are stuck and unable to progress. Fear exaggerated is called a phobia.

3.       Check common distortions at the door: Over-generalization, one lousy situation means every situation will be this way. All-or-nothing thinking, there is no middle ground. It must be perfect, or it’s a failure. Mental filtering, continually focusing on the negative, filtering out the positive, jumping to conclusions, assuming how someone feels about you.

4.       Purchase a journal and use it daily: Identify emotions, discover what you can change, track your changes.




Journal Prompt Questions

What happened?

Identify the trigger.

What emotion did you feel?

What were your exact thoughts?

How did you react?

Could you, your thoughts, your thoughts, or your behavior have been different?

How can you create new thoughts or behaviors for the future?

 Thank you for reading this article. If you need help in this area please email me to schedule a clarity call Coaches are the missing link between goals and accomplishments. You are worthy of accomplishing every goal you desire but first lets make sure your foundation is solid. 


Tea & Talk with Toya

SOLO Coaching & Consulting LLC


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